In Search of New Rituals

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I’m in search of new rituals. I’ve been asked to write an article on the development of new rituals, which is certainly a broad topic, and the most enriching way to do so is to tap into your knowledge. I don’t want to define what a new ritual is too tightly because I’d like you to think expansively and consider the range of innovation in rituals which we’ve witnessed over the past several decades. But, here are a few flexible guidelines to stimulate your thinking about this intriguing topic.

By new ritual, I’m thinking:

  • A ritual that hasn’t been practiced before (having a Jewish burial service for a pet)
  • An existing ritual that has been adapted to suit contemporary values or styles (brides and grooms encircling one another, instead of the classical practice of only the bride encircling a groom)
  • A ritual that has been practiced by a small segment of the community, but has grown in popularity either inside or outside of that community (mikveh/ritual immersion)
  • One that occurs with regularity, either in the synagogue, the home or a public venue (marking a child’s leaving home for college with a ritual in the synagogue)

I’m sure that there are other possible criteria, but again, these illustrations are to help jog your memory about new rituals which you are practicing, have observed or perhaps even created.

I’m also interested in learning about the origins of these rituals from you. For those who identify with a religious denomination, did they originate from within your denomination on the grassroots, regional or national level? Or did several synagogues within the denomination begin observing it and then the national structure helped to disseminate it? To what extent did wider social trends help to foster the ritual (feminism, inclusion of the GLBT community in Jewish life, eco-kosher)? How did you learn about these rituals?

Once I hear from you, I’ll compile a list of what I’ve learned and post it on Tools for Shuls. I’m eager to hear what you have to say and thank you in advance!

Rabbi Hayim Herring

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7 Comments

7 Comments

  1. Gary Stern  •  Nov 25, 2009 @3:00 pm

    This is a ritual idea, not an experience I have had, and it pertains to interfaith couples. I have wondered if it would not be possible to create an “Ally of the Jewish People” ritual. This could be a ritual extended to a non-Jewish spouse or partner who, for whatever reason, does not intend to become a Jew by choice yet is deeply committed to the spouse/partner, is participating in Jewish community, may be raising Jewish children, and wishes to make this expression as a committed ally. A Native American friend in Minnesota told me her tribe has such a ritual.

  2. Kerry Olitzky  •  Nov 26, 2009 @6:00 pm

    I tried to collect a series of men’s rituals a few years ago–following my own write up of kiddush levana which will be published this upcoming year in a collection called Brothers Keepers. I had thought that perhaps I could find a parallel set of rituals to the growing number among women (ala the book called Lifecycles) only to discover that men were not experimenting with rituals in the same way that women were. I will be interested to see if you discover something different.

  3. Jonathan Freed  •  Nov 29, 2009 @2:59 pm

    Shalom, Rabbi. My father purchased me from our Orthodox synagogue for $1 following my Brit Milah… an interesting ritual completing the cycle of birth and entry into the tribe. I hope he thought it was worth the buck. Could there be a similar ritual that would allow children to honor their parents in the same way? They/we deserve it. Following Kyla has its reward. Jonathan

  4. Lori Lefkovitz  •  Nov 30, 2009 @9:29 am

    http://www.ritualwell.org is a rich and deep resource for contemporary rituals organized by holidays and lifecycles. It includes the innovations that you mention–rituals for pets, the environment, thanksgiving, new rituals for women, lgbt, getting a driver’s license–and the site is built by the contributions of users. It is widely accessed and many rabbis and rabbinical students contribute to and depend on the site. ritualwell.org is a large site. Please take some time to explore its depths. Kolot at RRC is proud to provide this resource and we work hard to develop and sustain it.

  5. Laurie Zimmerman  •  Nov 30, 2009 @11:04 am

    Yes, I frequently use http://www.ritualwell.org and I suggest that my congregants go there when they are developing a life cycle ritual.

  6. Allison Vann  •  Dec 1, 2009 @12:41 pm

    Hayim, I have had success with doing the following rituals:
    - Blessing of the Animals
    - First time wearing a tallit
    I have been interested in writing a ritual for elderly people who are losing independence– giving up their car, or moving out of the home to a care facility.
    Let me know if you want the rituals I’ve done.
    Great project!
    Allison

  7. Larry Kaufman  •  Dec 6, 2009 @8:01 pm

    At Beth Emet (Evanston IL, Reform) at the conclusion of the Amidah, families or a huddle of those who have been sitting near one another gather in a circle with one or more tallitot wrapped over everyone’s shoulders and together recite the priestly benediction.

    Another Beth Emet ritual is the individual lighting of Shabbat candles at the end of the reception that precedes kabbalat Shabbat, prior to entering the sanctuary for services.

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