New Rituals: You Won’t Believe This One!

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Last week I asked you to share new rituals that you had heard about. Thank you for responding! While some of you responded on this blog, others wrote to me through Facebook or Twitter. Aren’t social media wonderful for purposes like these?! In no particular order, here is a summary of your ideas, plus a few of my own:

• Rabbi Mel Glazer: has an entire service on Blessing of the Pets, which he instituted years ago on Parashat Noach; many Synaplex™ synagogues have done so as well.
• Gary Stern: suggests creating an “Ally of the Jewish People” ritual, for someone who hasn’t formally converted to Judaism, but wants to actively participate in the life of the Jewish community.
• Rabbi Daniel Alter: bat mitzvah in the Orthodox community and zeved ha-bat (ritual for naming a new-born Jewish girl). Rabbi Alter notes that within the Orthodox community, many new or recovered rituals have been inspired by Feminism.
• Additionally, there has been a growth of rituals outside of the Orthodox for girls and women, GLBT Jews, and bedtime rituals for children.
•  Lighting a yellow candle for Yom ha-Shoah, invented by the Federation of Jewish Men’s Clubs: tinyurl.com/ykevgax.
• From Rabbi Mordechai Rackover: at the secular synagogue in Tel Aviv they make Havdallah between Yom ha-Zikaron and Yom ha—Atzma’ut.; Also from Rabbi Rackover: Men going to mikva on the same day their wives do (in observance of the laws of family purity).
• Developing non-Orthodox Chevrah Kadisha groups which are based in synagogues or the community-see Kavod v’Nichum, an organization that has lead this initiative: www.jewish-funerals.org.
• Creating just workplaces in kosher restaurants and providing a certificate attesting to it: www.utzedek.org/tavhayosher.
• Sending e-greeting cards for Jewish holidays, often with decent artwork.
• Holding an ecological Tu b’Shevat Seder.
• Holding a Tikkun Leil Shavuot—something that has taken root outside of the Orthodox community.

And, I also heard a few miscellaneous comments worth noting:
• A number of people recommended www.ritualwell.org, which is an excellent user-generated resource for new lifecycle rituals. (You can also find out about the history of the “orange on the seder plate” ritual there.) Also, a few people said that they search the Reform Movement’s website: www.urj.org.
• Rabbi Kerry Olitzky found that men are not experimenting with rituals in the same way that women are.
• Jonathan Freed wrote: “My father purchased me from our Orthodox synagogue for $1 following my Brit Milah,”—is anyone familiar with this one?

Thank you for your help and I’ll be doing further analysis in article that I’m writing about ritual. So—if you remember additional ones, please don’t hesitate to add to the list.

Rabbi Hayim Herring

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6 Comments

  1. phyllis  •  Dec 3, 2009 @9:43 pm

    a thanksgiving seder (that’s my favorite)

    also – the Jewish Museum in NYC has an exhibit called Reinventing Ritual which had some interesting ideas. The whole thing is available in an online gallery.

    interesting list because so many of these don’t feel “new” to me…

  2. hherring  •  Dec 5, 2009 @9:47 pm

    Phyllis–thanks for pointing me in this direction. I had read about the exhibit but didn’t check on the online component!

  3. Larry Kaufman  •  Dec 6, 2009 @7:53 pm

    Jonathan Freed wrote: “My father purchased me from our Orthodox synagogue for $1 following my Brit Milah,”—is anyone familiar with this one?

    It seems fairly obvious that the details got a little messed up in the family telling, and that the reference is to a pidyon ha-ben.

  4. hherring  •  Dec 7, 2009 @1:18 pm

    On behalf of Rabbi Terry Bookman of Temple Beth Am in Pinecrest FL:

    We created a “Havdallah” ritual for students and families when they are going off to college. Separately, they work on decorating an object. When they get back together with their parents, they realize the two “separate” objects are each half of a magen David. We suggest they take their half with them to school and carry it back each time they return.

  5. Rabbi Paul Kipnes  •  Dec 7, 2009 @10:15 pm

    We created a service honoring caretakers, people taking care of loved ones, especially those dealing with Alzheimers. You can find it at:
    http://www.orami.org/_kd/go.cfm?destination=ShowItem&Item_ID=3021

    Look forward to the article/book.

  6. Lisa Colton  •  Jan 14, 2010 @9:24 am

    We have an addendum to the blessing of the children at our Shabbat table: I whisper privately to each child something that I’m proud of the for that week. It’s an intimate and very positive moment to share things that otherwise might not get expressed or taken as seriously. I learned this from having Shabbat dinner with my teacher Aryeh Ben David and his family while at Pardes – long before I ever had kids of my own.

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